Dave Hakes' – Island Mode

I’m gonna go “off-book” here and come at this from a secular perspective – because, let’s face it, no truly Godly person (who has the Holy Sprit within them) would commit adultery. Nor would they be able to create the lies, and live in the lies, required to cover it up or (when caught) to attempt to justify it with more lies. If the Holy Spirit is actually within them, it simply would not be possible.

I’ve recently been in a group setting with a mixed (male and female) group of folks – some have been on the receiving end of adultery and some have been the adulterer.  There is always a general theme with those who have committed adultery which seems to escape every single one of the folks who have committed it.  Some have done it as a “one-off”, some have done it multiple times and some have lived in it – but the one thing they all have to say is that it did not “end” well once the act was brought to light…

Let me break it down for you idiots…

For a person to even present themselves as available to someone who is married or for a married person to present themselves to someone other than their spouse as available – just the presentation alone – means they are an absolute scumbag.  The farther this goes – flirting, petting, sneaking around, sleeping together, divorcing spouses, getting remarried, having children together, etc – creates an even larger evolution of the scumbag as well as the malignant dynamic of the predator/prey relationship between these two people.

The relationship was built on deceit – so there’s nothing there…  There is nothing but the lingering pride of the prey holding it together…  The stronger a persons pride, the longer this relationship built on nothing will last…  It’s hard for people to admit that they gave up everything for nothing – it’s hard for someone to admit that they “fell prey” to a predator – pride won’t allow the prey to admit or accept it without serious ramifications to their psyche…

This is, after all is said and done, a scumbag who has inserted themself between you and your spouse, family and friends…  and you have become, after all is said and done, a scumbag who fell for it because you were looking for it…  Let’s be real, for you to fall prey to the trap of this predator you had to be open to it in the first place…  So this relationship based on deceit is between two scumbags…  It’s empty – there’s nothing there…

It ends “badly” when:

• The prey realizes that they have destroyed the trust they once shared with their “left behind” spouse, the destruction of trust with family members, the destruction of trust amongst friends, the lies to other people, the lies to themself and getting other people to lie for them – was not only a conscious choice but a choice committed with a scumbag dishonest enough to do it with them in the first place…
• The prey wakes up and sees the predator next to them as the scumbag they actually are.  The scumbag that lured them into adultery or the scumbag who was looking for it and gave into it – the scumbag who happily took the trust of family and friends of the prey and tore apart those relationships with no guilt, remorse  or any consideration of what was taken…
• The predator realizes that they have been used by the prey and there really is nothing special enough about them that would actually draw the prey to them in the first place, other than bad timing – it was the circumstances of the preys life that brought them together and it really had nothing to do with the predator at all – the predator was simply there to fill a need for the prey for the time in which the prey needed it fulfilled – and that is all this relationship is based on…

The more pride you see in the dynamic between these two people the harder the fall will be…

Let me ask you something:  if you know a tsunami is coming – one that will take your house, everything you own, kill your family and your friends – what do you do?  Do you get the hell out of there?  Do you grab the kids and drive up the nearest hill and call all your friends and family and tell them that it’s on its way so they can save themselves and their loved ones?

Adultery is a tsunami.  It will destroy everything in its wake.  If you see it coming, or even hear of it coming, get the hell away from it.  No hesitation.  Run!

Get in your car and drive.  Do not stand in front of it thinking you can stop it or withstand it’s force or pressure.  Do not grab a surfboard and try to ride it out.  It will kill you, take everything you have, take everyone you have and destroy your family.  There is simply no justification for that – EVER!

Where there is no trust there is no relationship – if your spouse, family or friends can not trust you to simply get yourself (and them) to “safety” then any words coming out of your mouth, choices you make or actions you may take from the point of the initial “tryst” are empty.  They literally have no significance to anyone other than you – even the person you have committed adultery with does not trust you…  Even if it was a “one-off” – you have to build a web of lies for the rest of your life to attempt to cover that act after it occurs (and, once it comes to light, most of you will not repent of it, you will build another web of lies in an attempt to justify it) – and the person you committed adultery with knows you’re a scumbag who is not to be trusted anymore than they are…

The predator will actually find comfort in the fact that they have their prey cornered…  The predator will control the prey through the lies they build together (the prey being afraid the lies will be discovered as they grow over time)…

Basically, they have painted themselves into a corner and the paint/lies will not dry – to get out of the situation they have to step on the wet paint and each footstep is a lie that comes into the light…

…and THAT is why it doesn’t end well… Once the lies have the light shining on them they have to be dealt with…

There are no innocent parties in this relationship – the prey was waiting for it, looking for it, longing for it and the predator took advantage of that… Listening to these people talk brought something else to light in my brain – the predator never realizes that they are being used by the prey. They think the “relationship” was built on attraction – if you look at these people you can see that it was not. They do not realize that the other person was fishing for it just as they were – it doesn’t make them “special”, it makes them the scumbag who just happened to be in the wrong place at the wrong time who did the wrong thing with the wrong person…

I’ll break it down very simply for you – the other scumbag was looking for it, they were simply waiting for another scumbag to cross their path, you just happened to be in front of them at the wrong time – the only thing “special” about you is your timing… But that is not really even “special” about you because you work by the numbers, it really has nothing to do with your timing. You make it a point to be at the wrong place at the wrong time as often as you can so you can ambush others as often as it takes for them to be aware that you are available to them and eventually someone who is looking for it will cross your path and will say “yes”…

You are a predator hunting for prey – if one watering hole doesn’t work, you move on to the next and so on – you try to stay away from groups because it is hard to see the prey in a group and even if you could spot them the prey has protection in those groups – so you prowl from watering hole to watering hole until you find a lone animal to devour. Maybe you see that they are too healthy today (they may be too healthy for you to chase down) – so you follow your potential prey to watch their habits and look for weaknesses – you follow them to other potential prey as well – eventually you will find your meal. You simply need to be there when they trip so they will be easy to run down or you may be able to get them cornered so there is no way out for them…

That is as simple as I can explain it. Homework assignment done. I can’t believe they put us, the “left behind” spouses, in the same room with you scumbags to listen to anything you may have to say – there’s nothing you can say to justify anything.

Gonna try and keep the kids up2date on my workouts, diet and potential adventures coming up right here – so they can check in as often as they want…

I lost 60 lbs between January 30th and August 1st. The doc put me on the carnivore diet and the weight just started coming off (went from 260 to 200). I’ve been trying to keep consistent with 25 miles a week as far as walking/running/rucking – some weeks it is more, some less, but it’s a pretty consistent average…

Weird thing happened when I introduced weight training and running consistently at the beginning of this month. I’ve always joked about “if I lift a five lb weight five times then I’ll gain 5 lbs in muscle” – not such a joke as it turns out. I’ve gained 15 lbs of muscle in 15 days…

So, probably going to put off “weight training” and just stick to calisthenics for a bit. Definitely going to stop running and just go with walking/hiking or rucking for a bit…

One thing I learned when I was hiking the Tetons a few months back is that the lighter I am the better – especially when climbing. My pack weighs 40 lbs and my front pack (water) weighs another 10 lbs – so, I’m thinking before I head out on my next adventure I wanna get down to 180 and train at that weight for a while to see how it feels with the ruck and water on…

Anyway, that is what the plan is for now – I’ll update ASAP…

John 3:19 – 21
“the light has come into the world, and people loved the darkness rather than the light because their works were evil.  For everyone who does wicked things hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his works should be exposed.  But whoever does what is true comes to the light, so that it may be clearly seen that his works have been carried out in God.”

When you are doing something in the dark, in secret, you know it’s the wrong thing to do.  If it is glorifying God, then there is no reason to do it in the dark.  There would be no reason to attempt to justify it in any way, shape or form. You would simply let the light shine on it as an example to others…

When you cut off everyone who simply  questions your actions and/or choices (not judging them, but simply questioning them) – family, friends and entire social groups – then you are letting (worldly) pride take the place of (His) truth…  In truth you will find light… In truth, there is no fear of the light…

These are all old, but they are “the latest and greatest” – sad if you think about it – the county is suppose to have open meetings on ALL of this AND these are all suppose to be updated every 5-10 years. Forgive me for the highlighting – I have studied these through the years and made notes at the time. I have no idea what the notes were at this point, but the yellow highlights are still there…

DISASTER PREPAREDNESS FOR MAUI COUNTY- A CITIZEN’S GUIDE
The Maui County Hazard Mitigation Plan

County of Maui 2030 General Plan – County Wide Policy Plan
County of Maui Department of Planning COMMUNITY PLANNING PROCESS HANDBOOK August 2017
Maui Island Plan General Plan 2030

WEST MAUI COMMUNITY PLAN (1996)

A lot of people are going to be litigation happy for the next few years – and, as American citizens, it is their right to be. The only way anything gets changed in this country is through the law…

You have to consider the above plans and weigh them against the thinking of the time. As tourism took off in the 90’s, not only did the idea of “controlling it” fall away, we were all happy to put these plans aside and pretend they didn’t exist (or they no longer applied because the economy had changed). We were all on the train – and as long as the train was rolling, we were all happy and fat…

We really wanted to do something with the deserts on the south side (Kihei/Wailea) and the west side (Lahaina/Kaanapali) of the island – so we created a few Urban Heat Islands (without updating any of the old infrastructure) and created the (WUI) Wilderness-Urban Interface without REALLY considered the consequences. No one cared as long as the money was flowing as we crept more and more into the WUI with our modern technologies (which are all, at some temperature and/or pressure, ignition sources)…

It’s very ironic that this happened when it did because I spent most of the year studying Urban Heat Islands and WUI’s and their effect on the local watersheds/environments and “Global Warming” – I didn’t post for more than 6 months because I wanted the second half of the years posts to be ALL ABOUT these topics. My first post this year (July 29th) has tons of articles and data to read through if you’d like:
Urban Heat Islands

Even after the Lahaina fires a few years ago – the money was flowing and no one wanted to spend it on infrastructure – so we ALL ignored it. Hell, I was there cleaning ash out of the carpets the next day – we all went back to work and just ignored it…
2023/08/22 – A Maui wildfire nearly took Lahaina 5 years ago. Its warning was ignored

In June of 2020, I Wrote this:
No Blame – Just Solutions – this was a response to Victorino asking for solutions during one of his press conferences while everyone was locked down. At the time, there was no way of getting any information to him or anyone who worked for him – so I posted my response. It highlights some of the events that have, and have not, occured on the island over the years and how we could potentially “fix” them.

The fear now is that “they” can start from scratch. There’s one thing I’ve learned over the years and that is that the government is bad at just about everything they do – the market is what works. The best job the government does is to support anything that keeps the market open (so consumers have their choice of the best products and services, for the best pricing) – in other words, the governments only job should be to stay out of the way and to assure that large companies stay out of the way so no choices are limited, withheld or blocked from consideration.

Here… Today… How we rebuild the areas of Maui that need to be rebuilt is up to us. We can not let “them” do what they do…

Thank You EVERYONE for the starlinks – so many people donated that I don’t know who to thank individually…

We’re still having flareups upcountry (the fire no one is paying attention to) – they are meeting up at Kula Lodge daily to get work teams together to create fire breaks and clearing any loose debri that may be flammable. The wind knocked down many trees so they are clearing those as well… It is being run by civilians who live up there. At the moment they have plenty of gloves, hard hats, shovels and such – what they need is water and meals for those working up there. We’ve been running stuff up there as needed…

The displaced from the upcountry fires are getting their supplies from the Pukalani Station – it’s right across the pool at the park there – red cross is running it (there’s a lot of supplies there – mostly because no one trusts the government right now and they are not going to the supply depots for much of anything). There are folks upcountry who will not leave their homes – if you are one of these folks, please contact Anna or myself and we will get you supplies…

Our two oldest have went to the mainland for college this last weekend (they were a huge help and enabled us to be in several places at once) so Anna and I are stretched kind of thin right now – so please let us know future needs as well so we can get them to you BEFORE you need them.

The folks out at Camp Moluhia are making shaker boxes and prepping for cleanup. They got a huge order of Personal Protective Gear yesterday so those cleaning up will be protected from the environment – don’t want to breath the air out there right now…

There are a few folks collecting school supplies and backpacks for the mobile schools which have popped up here and there – if you’d like to be part of that contact us and we can hook you up with the right folks…

Someone has donated some really nice, portable, pop-up tiny houses which are being set up over at King’s Cathedral – many “refugees” ended up there and can house there as events continue to unravel…

I’m not going to talk about “the crap” that created these events or “the response” which made them worse – I’ll let everyone else vent on social media for now and just keep helping as needed…

Fix the problem, not the blame – once the problem is fixed, then…

…I’ll vent when I’m done…

Heads up locals – the air and ocean are not your friend right now – don’t eat anything from the ocean and stay upwind of the disaster area – people are getting sick – don’t be one of them… You have to stay healthy to help others…

Also, use the bottled water for cooking and boiling right now… If you don’t trust the source you got it from, contact us, we’ll get you as much as you need…